When you visualize a toolbox, what do you see? What kind of tools are inside? Is there one tool? Or is there multiple? What is each tool used for? A toolbox can be a great metaphor for our coping strategies … Continue reading Finding Tools For Your Toolbox
It’s easy for us to give advice to others to ‘ask for help’ when they don’t know something or when they are struggling. But often, we can get stuck because we don’t know what to ask for. I may be … Continue reading Asking for Help
“It’s not your responsibility.” This is something that others would tell me, and something that I would tell myself constantly. “It’s not your responsibility to make sure that your parents are happy.” “It’s not your responsibility to be your friends’ … Continue reading Responsibility
Occasionally I find myself in a slump, feeling unmotivated, uninspired, bored, and tired. On one hand, I feel the need to do something to reinvigorate myself and to energize myself, but on the other hand, I have no interest in … Continue reading Getting Out of a Slump
Like many, during quarantine I have engaged in many tasks that I have never before. For example, I started baking sourdough bread using a sourdough starter. My friend, a well seasoned bread baker himself, offered me some of his sourdough … Continue reading Practicing the Art of Letting Go
A fun thought exercise that my partner and I like to engage in is thinking about alternate realities — what would alternate reality Queenie be doing in this moment? There could be parallel universes where I reacted to situations differently, … Continue reading Alternate Realities
Like many, I have fell off the grid with many of my previous responsibilities (i.e. blogging) and have engaged in things like Stardew Valley, Korean dramas, and embroidery during this period in quarantine. Though I would enjoy my time relaxing … Continue reading Managing Expectations
From a young age, my dad instilled in me his paranoia. “If you’re in danger, instead of shouting ‘help!’ you should shout ‘fire!’. People can ignore you when you are asking for help but it’s a fire, it’s everyone’s problem … Continue reading I Know Kung Fu
Not long ago, I played a game of Bananagrams for the first time. I’ve played Words with Friends before and I imagined this to be similar, with the only difference being that I was able to physically touch the tiles … Continue reading Flexible vs. Rigid Planning
There’s one memory from my youth that is a popular family tale, often brought up over dinner to elicit laughter and joy. In this memory, a young Queenie is maybe six years old. She is seated on the couch in … Continue reading “No Laughing Allowed!”
